Are you on the ‘right’ path?

Sukses adalah keadaan ketika kita mendapatkan apa yang kita inginkan.

Namun, kebanyakan orang dalam hidup ini tidak mendapatkan apa yang mereka inginkan, karena mereka sendiri tidak tahu apa yang mereka inginkan.

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Tidak terasa enam tahun sudah saya lulus dari S1 FE UNPAR. Dan selama itu pula saya telah banyak membantu teman-teman mahasiswa (angkatan bawah saya) dalam menyelesaikan skripsinya yang bermasalah.

Sebagai seorang pembimbing, saya rasa sikap saya cukup keras. Terkadang saya suka marah-marah kepada mereka. Sering juga saya memberikan tugas yang banyaknya . . . yach gitu dech. Namun demikian, puji Tuhan, dengan arahan saya, akhirnya mereka semua bisa lulus dengan hasil yang memuaskan. ^_^V

Setelah lulus, tentunya mereka semua berterima kasih kepada saya. Beberapa orang menceritakan bagaimana rencananya ke depan. Ada yang ingin langsung married dan jadi ibu rumah tangga, ada yang berencana bekerja di perusahaan asing, ada yang berniat untuk melanjutkan S2, dan banyak lagi cita-cita lainnya.

Apapun itu, saya sadar bahwa yang namanya kelulusan bukanlah akhir dari pembelajaran, justru itulah awal dari perjalanan hidup yang sesungguhnya. Jadi, yach saya hanya bisa berdoa yang terbaik untuk mereka, semoga apa yang mereka cita-citakan selama ini bisa menjadi kenyataan.

Singkat cerita, sekitar 3 sampai 6 bulan setelah kelulusan, ternyata ada beberapa orang dari mereka yang jadi galau, lalu menghubungi saya untuk curhat tentang pergumulannya, yang ternyata isinya mirip-mirip. And, the frequently asked question is:

Saat ini saya sudah bekerja di Perusahaan X . . . . . . . ATAU memiliki usaha sendiri . . . . . . . ATAU mereka menceritakan kondisinya saat ini.

Sebenernya itu adalah keinginan saya sendiri . . . . . . . ATAU keinginan orang tua saya.

Akan tetapi, saat ini saya bingung, saya gatau apakah jalan yang sedang saya jalani sekarang itu merupakan jalan yang benar atau bukan. Saya takut salah. Kalo bukan, lalu gimana donk cara cari tahu jalan mana yang benar dalam hidup saya?!

Honestly speaking, sebenarnya hal serupa juga sempat terbersit dalam pikiran saya beberapa waktu yang lalu. Saya merasa seakan di dalam hidup ini saya sedang mendayung sebuah perahu di tengah danau. Ketika kabut kehidupan datang, saya menjadi buta arah. Namun saya pantang menyerah, saya tetap mendayung perahu kehidupan tersebut agar bisa segera mendarat aman ke tepian. Dan pertanyaan yang kemudian muncul adalah:

Am I on the right path?!

Sebelum saya melanjutkan pembahasan, terlebih dahulu saya ingin mengajak kita semua untuk menyaksikan video berikut:

Link video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuntaZJBcfI

Sebuah video yang singkat, namun isi pesannya cukup untuk membuka pikiran saya. Hal serupa juga sempat dibahas oleh Merry Riana melalui artikel di blog-nya, yang judul tulisannya saya gunakan sebagai judul pada postingan kali ini. Berikut isinya:

I would like to start by sharing with you this very beautiful poem:

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Yes! You know you mustn’t quit, but sometimes when your life isn’t easy right now or nothing seems to be going according to what you want, you might be wondering and ask yourself whether am I doing the right thing in my life? Am I in the right path? And how do I know whether I am in the right path?

I might not have the exact answer for you, but I can give you my opinion.

Ask yourself this question: “How many right path do you think is available out there?”

Well, my question probably make you think for a while. Why?

Simply because a lot of people normally have the assumption that there is only one ‘right’ path to walk. And if we believe there is only one ‘right’ path, then we are also assuming that there are many ‘wrong’ path too. Given these odds, there is more likely that most people are on one of those ‘wrong’ path, including us. Seems like bad news isn’t it??

Well, fortunately, that is not right. The truth is everything in your life is unfolding in perfect order. Or in another word, everything is on schedule. Any ‘wrongness’ you see in your current path doesn’t make the path intrinsically wrong. It’s so-called wrongness only comes from your expectations about what ‘should’ be happening or unfolding on your path instead of what actually IS happening.

Even the ‘right’ road-to-happiness has it’s obstacles.

So, believe me when I said that where you are now is perfect. Because this is where you are supposed to be. You are on your path now. Whatever bad situation that is happening to you right now, don’t see it as troubled. Just let it go and let go of the attachment to how things ‘should’ be. As you become more trusting of life, you relax into it more and resist it less.

Stop demanding that things go a certain way and have them be the way they are. Things will work out. In fact, things are working out now. To help you feel better, always believe that things are happening FOR us rather than TO us. This means that no matter how painful or uncomfortable things may be, it is all there for our growth and edification.

If not because of the financial crisis and unstable political situation back in Jakarta in 1998, I wouldn’t be in Singapore.

If I came from a very well to do family, I wouldn’t have so BIG drive and motivation to achieve the current success that I achieved today.

If ‘X’ company never reject my scholarship application back then in my second year in University, I would never start my entrepreneurship journey (because I have to served bond working few years in that ‘X’ company, and probably by now I will still be a normal employee).

If I didn’t loss almost all my savings in the stock market, I wouldn’t even try to go to sales and make my first million from there.

There were many unfortunate things happened to my life. But I know that everything happen for a reason and those things happened FOR me.

Sometimes the road gets rough, but don’t give up. You’ve got to keep on moving. Ask yourself: “What can I learn and discover from this situation?”, and ask: “How can I move forward in the most positive way?”

I would like to end this by writing the remaining poem that I shared with you earlier:

Life is queer with it’s twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worse, That you must not quit.

Source: www.merryriana.co.id

Saat itu saya merasa bahwa saya sedang terdampar di tengah danau yang berkabut, tak tahu arah ke mana saya harus mendayung. Tetapi satu hal yang akhirnya saya sadari, bahwa apapun yang terjadi dalam kehidupan saya, entah itu hal baik atau buruk, saya yakin saya sedang berada di jalur yang benar. Sekarang saya tahu bahwa jalan yang benar itu tidak hanya ada satu. Itulah sebabnya mengapa ada pepatah kuno yang berkata bahwa ada banyak jalan menuju ke Roma.

Yes, I’m still on the right path!!!

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